Mama Bear

May is such a hectic time for everyone, it seems. The month can be overwhelming at times with all the end of school year activities, programs, concerts, ceremonies, etc. - all piled on top of the regular calendar of activities and commitments. When I'm in a season like this, I'm likely to be more easily angered, more quickly offended... and I'm more likely to bare the mama bear teeth and claws, and to growl loudly at all who would dare to threaten my cubs.

This train of thought reminded me of a post that I wrote last year. When I looked it up, I was surprised to find that it was posted on May 20, 2008. Exactly one year ago today. Reading it brought back the memories of what we were going through at that time, and how similar the circumstances were to those of this year. It also reminded me that "this too shall pass."

So, rather than trying to rewrite what I've already done, I'm going to repost the original.

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A quick search on the internet revealed several sites that describe the qualities of mama bears. They all had a common theme.

• Mother bears will not leave their cubs. They are fiercely protective. She will hide her cubs nearby (to keep them safe) while she hunts or fishes. She will put them in a place where they are still nearby, but where other animals are not likely to notice the cubs. If a mother bear feels that her cubs are in danger, she will fight to the death to protect them.


• Mother bears are fiercely protective and extremely devoted, attentive, sensitive and affectionate with their young cubs.


• The mother will fiercely protect her cubs from any perceived danger.


• Mother bears are fiercely protective of their young. You especially don't want to get between a mother bear and a cub.


• A mother bear with cubs will be fiercely protective.

Fiercely protective. Sound familiar? Are you a mama bear? I am.

My kiddos can vouch for this. They say they can see the transformation begin in my eyes. Then it moves to my jaws. The clinching begins. The timbre of my voice drops and sharpens as the volume slightly rises. Sometimes more than slightly. Push me beyond this stage and you’re likely to see the claws, snarling teeth and flying fur appear.

It doesn’t have to be a life or death situation to bring about these protective instincts. And, it doesn’t matter the age of your child. I’m certain that my parents still feel the mama bear tendencies arise when they believe my sister or I have been wronged.

Wronged. Aggrieved. Mistreated. Persecuted. Maltreated. Victimized. Offended. Ill-treated. Injured. Harmed. (I have a great thesaurus. Let me know if you need more words.)

The dilemma in these situations, I’ve discovered, is finding the discernment to know when to unleash the mama bear. Or, when to take a deep, cleansing breath, step aside and let my cubs fight their own battle. Especially as my kiddos are getting older.

How am I doing with this dilemma? Well, it’s a day-to-day process. Some days I get it right. Some days I don’t. My prayer, though, is that my kiddos will know that whether I jump into the fray in their behalf or step aside and allow the battle and its outcome to be theirs, Mama Bear is there. Praying for guidance and protection from the One who loves them even more than I ever could.

And then I return to our family verse:

"For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me. " (Jeremiah 29:11-13 NLT)